Wednesday’s Practical Word of Wisdom for Growth:
How do you know when you are doing the right thing? Perhaps the answer to this varies with the circumstance. If we are talking about what to wear in the morning, then the “right” thing to wear may be an outfit based on what you saw in your favorite magazine. Or, the “right” thing to wear could depend on the type of work you do. The classic business suit and heels, complete with briefcase, might not be the best bet if you work in a daycare with children ages 2-3. The right thing to wear could very well be based on what is most comfortable to you. This is a decision we make everyday. For some, a lot of time and effort is spent on this decision, for others it’s a 2-3 second moment and it’s over. But, for most, this decision is made without the risk of a lot of negative consequences to you or others.
But, more serious questions about doing the right thing come up all the time in every aspect of our lives.
- What is the right thing to do when you are told that your child is fighting at school?
- What about when your husband asks you to do something that you just don’t feel like doing?
- What do you do when your best friend wants to copy answers from your test?
- What is the right thing to do when your boss asks you to change the numbers on the financial report, just this once?
- What is the right thing to do when you discover that someone who has been in prison has moved into your neighborhood
- What do you do when someone you know is deliberately spreading lies?
Often there seems to be more than one right answer or right way to handle these situations. We may have seen our parents or a close friend handle a situation a certain way and so instantly that comes to mind for us and seems to be okay. But, when you commit to an answer, how do you know that it is the right choice?
Let’s look at this word of wisdom from Proverbs:
All a man’s ways seem right to him,
but the LORD weighs the heart. —Proverbs 21:2
The heart is where we store our values and beliefs. Ultimately, those beliefs and values that we treasure will directly influence how we handle the tough decisions. The Lord examines our motives against His values. So, in the course of each day it is best to weigh our decisions against these values. Ask yourself, why am I making this certain decision? What about the example where your boss asks you to change the numbers on the financial report? If being honest is important to you, then, you’ll make the decision not to change the numbers, even if it means that you might lose your job. If your decisions are based on corrupt values, although it might seem right at the time, it will end up bringing about more trouble in the end. In this situation, you may find that you will have to keep changing the numbers every quarter, and when the company fails financially, you may be the one they blame. If you stand on not changing the numbers, your boss’ mistakes may be later exposed, since you chose not to hide them, and you will still have your job.
So, why did you make that certain decision? When you make a decision based on good values, you can say that you made a conscious effort to maintain a standard of honesty in your life, for example. When we take a stand for doing the right thing, it may be lonely for a minute, but your actions will have an impact on your circle of influence and others may chose to follow suite. Having a reputation for doing the right thing is just another way to wear your inner beauty!
How do you wear your inner beauty through your decision making? Post your comments or questions below.
Beauty comes from within. What is inner beauty? It is the place where behavior and values meet. Are you inspired to wear your inner beauty? If so, do you change your behavior or your values? You decide.
S. D. G.